But this post is not about the baby blessing. What I started out to write about was that we stayed with my Uncle Hal and Aunt Janis this weekend, and I really enjoyed being in their home. They live in Blackfoot, where I grew up, and they've been some of my favorite "constants" -- always there for family occasion, always welcoming and supportive. Their daughter, Jessica, has been one of my closest friends as long as I can remember and I spent a lot of time in their home growing up.
My Aunt Janis is really into family history, and has so much information about my mother's side of the family. I love hearing about her work, and talked with her late into the night, looking at photos she has collected and family pedigree charts she's organized. Have you ever listened to the stories of someone who has done a lot of family history work? I am amazed at some of the stories Janis -- and others-- have told me about how they've found a certain name, or cemetary, or date. And how compelled they've been to get their geneology in order. I hope my time comes when I "catch the bug," though I imagine it won't be right now, while I'm in the middle of the "small children" phase.
One of the stories Aunt Janis told me was about my great grandmother -- my maternal grandmother's mother, named Callie. Callie was born in backwoods Tennessee and lived through some crazy times. She actually wrote a short life history when she was in her fifties, and Aunt Janis let me borrow a copy while I was there. I stayed up waaaay late to read it, couldn't put it down. I was fascinated to hear the voice of someone very directly related to me, who lived such a different life, so very long ago.
She called her story "Tales of a Hillbilly Girl"and told about how her father kept a box of rattlesnakes and copperheads on the front porch, to show at a local carnival for money. Her bedroom as a child was right next to the porch, and she could hear the snakes rattling all night long. She wrote about seeing scorpions sunning themselves on the roof of their house -- 18 inches long! She told about eloping with her sweetheart because she knew her dad wanted her to marry the rich foreign neighbor and she didn't love him. She told about her rough mother-in-law she lived with for a time, who expected her to get up at 3 a.m. to do all the laundry and cooking for the entire house, every day.
Callie eventually had 17 children, including two sets of twins who were stillborn. Did you catch that -- SEVENTEEN!?!? (And here, I struggle with my two, in our lovely new home with running water, AC, and automatic garage). She raised 13 children, including my grandmother, who is still living.
I keep thinking about her. Not just her, but all my family and heritage. I grew up hearing stories my Grandma Hone told me about her parents leaving Kentucky and coming to Idaho to farm. I love feeling connected to these people in my past. I wish I knew more and felt closer to them. Sometimes, my lack of information and emotional connection to my past gets me started thinking about my own mortality in a sad, yet meaningful way: a hundred years from now, will one of my relatives remember me? From all my journaling, photos, and records, what will anyone be able to conclude about my personality, my beliefs, my character? Deep thoughts, I know. Maybe that's partly why people get so involved in family history work -- it's a circular hope for our own future, that someone will remember us, down the road a century or two from now.
Who knows? Maybe the blog will be so catching, it will still be around then?? Immortality, here I come.
6 comments:
4:30 AM!!!!! Are you serious? But a very thought provoking post I must say. Trent's looked up a little bit on your Dad's side of the family. You should ask him about some of those stories as well.
My clock on my blog is somehow still set on London time. I've tried to change it, but I still can't figure it out. No, I was not up at 4:30 a.m. But thanks for checking. ha!
Hey, I just figured out how to change it. Finally!!
I'm glad you clarified, because that would be a good reason for not wanting to deal with kids during the day! Your poor ancestor having to get up at 3 just to do chores. I would have rather lived in the woods. I love hearing stories. They are fascinating. I think most people I have talked to, alive, or read about those who passed away, have really fascinating stories. Stories of triumph over difficult times, they're inspiring. Thanks for posting.
Thanks for making me feel guilty again about not getting into family history. Everytime someone talks about it, I say the same thing "It's just not my time". If I'm honest with myself, I'd know I just need to make the time for it.
Loved your great grandmother's story. What wimps we can be these days.
Nice Write-up, Kam. It said on my computer that you wrote this at 10:30 p.m.--I wonder what the difference was??
It was interesting to me that you had such a nice time being with your uncle and aunt---Hal and Janis---and it made me think that I'm going to send out a great big all-encompassing e-mail to all of MY 49 nieces and nephews and tell them to come stay a week-end with Aunt Karen!! Maybe They'll have a good time talking with ME like YOU did with THEM!! ya think?? (I'm not being facetious---I'm actually pleased that you had such a nice, enjoyable time being with them, and I'm sorry about your dad still being incapacitated with that terrible kidney stone. It was thoughtful of you to decide to stay somewhere else besides HERE, but it sure was nice having you at least be around, some of the time!) Love, Mom
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